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Dealing with the father of your girlfriends child When you're dating a woman who has a child, things can be very different. She may not be able to give you her full attention because of the responsibilities she has as a mother. Certain things may annoy you, like when she's having a hard time finding a baby sitter, or when you're having a nice conversation, and the baby starts crying and she can't get him to stop. These are all things you have to consider when you're dating a woman who has a child. However, the biggest problem may be the father of her child. When your dealing with the father of your girlfriends child, you need to realize that the child's father is going to be a part of their lives, and that's something you have to respect. The father of your girlfriend's child may not be as difficult as you think. What I suggest, is that you should find out as much as possible about him. Find out whether or not he has a girlfriend, or someone special in his life. If he does have a girlfriend, things will probably run much smoother, but if he doesn't, you may be in for some drama. If there is a little drama between you and the father of your girlfriends child, you may want to sit down and have a talk with him. You should explain to him that you're only her boyfriend, and you're not trying to be the child's father, that's his job. Explain to him that whatever goes on between him and his child is between the two of them. If you tell him what your intentions are with the mother of his child, he may take a step back and not worry so much about you as a father figure to his child. Your girlfriend knows the child's father much more than you do. You should be concerned with the father only if your girlfriend lets you know that there may be a problem. Ask her if she's had trouble in the past trying to date someone because of her child's father. If she has, that should be a red flag, and you should be concerned. You may not want to think about this, but you need to be wary of your girlfriend and the father of her child getting back together. To get a better idea of how close they still are, ask her if she ever thought of getting back in a relationship with him. If she says yes, then tell her how concerned you are about it. If she's thought about trying to rekindle their romantic relationship, she may still be in love with him. Find out who broke up with who. If he broke up with her, she may still be hurt. If that's the case, you may not want to get emotionally wrapped up in the relationship you have with her. The most important part of this topic is your girlfriend. She's the one who's caught in between you and the father of her child. She has to set the tone for the relationship you have with her. If she allows the father of her child to be rude or disrespectfully towards you in the beginning of your relationship, it's most likely always going to be like that. She may not understand that if the father of her child is not willing to get along with you, you may leave her. If things are not going good between you and him, tell her, and if she's really concerned, she'll make an effort to resolve the problem. If not, you're in for a long ride with the father of her child.
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