Coping While Your Spouse Is Away At War
Many young couples are facing the possibility of living alone while their spouses are away at war. Many will be facing this possibility for the first time since marrying.
Coping while your spouse is away at war will take commitment and dedication. Most couples only have a short time together after being notified of their spouses departure.
How to prepare for the leave
- Spending quality time with your spouse is a must.
- Family and friends will expect you to spend time with them also.
- Make sure important paperwork and documents are in order.
- If you have children, explain to them the importance of going off to war.
- Look at this time away from your spouse in a positive way.
Coping during the leave
- Family and friends will be there for you and your family as you are away at war.
- With the new technology of today, computers and e-mails are a way to keep in touch.
- The spouse that is left behind should join and meet other families that are coping with the fact that their spouse is away at war.
- Share with your children the letters, e-mails, and any other correspondence you receive from your spouse.
- If you are not coping well while your spouse is away, consult a counselor that may be available to you through the military service that your spouse is serving in.
What to expect after your spouse returns
- Once your spouse has returned home, he may not seem to be the same person he was before he left.
- If your spouse needs his own space, give it to him.
- Give your spouse the freedom to talk about his experience if that is what he wants to do.
- Do not push him for information if he is not ready to tell you everything.
- Your spouse has been in a different atmosphere, a different environment, and a different world and he may need the help and support of his spouse to return to his new surroundings.
Coping before, during, and after your spouse has been away at war takes determination, love, and support.