• Dress sexy every day. Why wait for a special occasion to feel special? Get rid of all of your clothes that make you feel uncomfortable or unattractive. Dress in colors that compliment your complexion. Wear comfortable fabrics that feel good against your skin.
  • Buy sexy underwear. Wear sexy underwear everyday. Yes, even on days when only you will see it. Your sexy secret will increase your sexual thoughts and your desire. And if you feel like sharing this bit of personal information with someone else, feel free.
  • Surround yourself with positive, empowering messages. If you've just gone through a breakup, listen to empowering break-up songs.
  • Care. Great sex doesn’t come from fancy tricks and toys. It comes from caring about the person you’re with, and tuning in to your own pleasurable sensations and your partner’s.
  • Get help. Seek professional therapy for events in your past that might have caused you to feel ashamed or repressed about sex.
  • Adopt a positive attitude about life. There are no limits to what you can do.
  • Understand your body. It helps you understand your body parts, know what you want, and how your bodyparts work.
  • When you’re alone, walk around your home naked. As you pass mirrors, glance and appreciate the beauty of your body.
  • Get a makeover, including hair, manicure, pedicure, makeup. If you can't afford a makeover, maybe you can barter with someone or give parties for Mary Kay.
  • Write an erotic story in which you are the main character.
  • Study sex manuals and be willing to experiment and try new techniques.
  • Begin an exercise program and work out at least three times a week. A sexy, toned body will give you the confidence to make love in any position … with the lights on.
  • Smile. Nothing shows confidence more than a sexy “come-hither” smile.