Dating in 2020 is hard enough without a pandemic going on. But dating when you’re over 50? Some people might think that it’s impossible.

However, people are simply unwilling to settle for the wrong relationship. Some people over 50 might want to start dating after a divorce. As many as 7,000 couples get married each day but that doesn’t mean their relationship will stand the test of time. Others might be hoping to dive back into the dating world after successfully seeing their kids off to college. Regardless of your reasoning, dating when you’re over the age of 50 can seem intimidating.

But why is it so darn hard? Here’s why dating in your 50s and beyond can seem difficult, along with the best ways to get back out there.

Why is dating over 50 difficult?

Dating as an older person can seem difficult for many. Some folks might simply lack the confidence to get back out there. After all, it can be hard to feel “normal” dating in your 50s and beyond. Most of the people around you might be in long-term marriages. If you feel like you’re “too old” to be dating, however, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

People deserve love at every stage of their lives, regardless of age. In fact, some experts claim that dating as you get older can actually be easier. You’ve gained experience and you know what you want from a relationship. On top of that, you’re usually “kinder, more forgiving, and more understanding,” notes Lynell Ross, a health and wellness coach. “If you can be open to new possibilities, dating can actually be easier as you get older.”

But even those that have all the confidence in the world might struggle to dip their toes into the dating pool. From shyness to concerns about men’s sexual health, getting back out there can be scary. And that’s before you even take technology into account. Online dating technology can seem hard to wrap your head around. Some people outright refuse to use these novelties while others just don’t know where to begin. Electricity travels at nearly the speed of light — about 186,000 miles per second. For those who have been out of the game for a while, many feel like technology is moving too fast to keep up with.

How to get back out there

At the end of the day, dating in your 50s is hard, but dating in general can be difficult. You’re still a confident, beautiful person who is worthy of love, regardless of age. That being said, here are some of the best ways you can get back out there, even during the time of a global pandemic.

  • Try dating apps that are friendly for people over 50. Sure, your neighbor might talk about using Tinder, but the social app knows its audience and its audience is typically under 30. 50+ dating apps include eHarmony, Match, and other paid services. People who pay for these apps are usually more interested in serious relationships, which can give you a better pool of possibilities. Paying for the service will also help keep creeps at bay since they can bar their info from ever joining their dating app again. Dating online right now is also a good way to stay safe in the era of COVID-19.
  • Get over your past relationship in time. If you’re not ready to be in a new relationship because you’re not over your old one, take it slow and feel out the situation with someone new. It might help to sell that house you had together if you must. Your realtor will still take about 3% of the profit, but it will enable you to form new memories without the baggage of your ex hiding around every corner.
  • Don’t be deterred by a couple of bad dates. There are at least one bazillion people in the world which means that some will be hits while others will be misses. Getting a few misses in a row is natural. It can hurt but you’ve gotta keep trying until you find a good date!
  • Don’t fall for games. “Ghosting” and “breadcrumbing” are more popular than ever. If you think someone is leading you on, then drop them like a hot potato. Games are for children, after all. There are going to be more mature options down the line.
  • Be firm on red flags. Sometimes, you meet someone and they seem amazing. This can cause you to overlook their undesirable traits, especially if you haven’t dated in a while. Unfortunately, those red flags will only become larger are your relationship progresses. Don’t ignore signs that you’re dating the wrong person.

Good luck dating

During the time of COVID-19, safe dating is more important than ever. If you click with someone online, don’t hesitate to recommend a video chat date before a date in real life. When you do finally go on that date, try to keep your distance physically, too. The new love of your life might be out there but you want to stay healthy and safe in the meantime. Good luck dating!