When most people think of having children they think about doing so the “old fashioned way”. Unfortunately, this is not an option for some people. Some individuals consider adoption whereas surrogacy is what appeals to others.

Talk it over with your significant other 

Prior to obtaining information on surrogacy matters, discuss the issue with your partner (if you have one). Since this is often a two-party decision, make sure that both you and your partner agree. It is important to discuss options openly and honestly to ensure that the surrogacy path is the correct way to proceed. It is a personal decision that only the couple can make.

Learn as much as you can about surrogacy

The next step to determining whether surrogacy is right for you is to gather as much information on the subject as possible. 

Seriously consider the concept of surrogacy 

One must come to terms with the fact that if they go ahead with surrogacy in order to obtain a child, they will be allowing another party to carry the child for them. This is fine with some individuals whereas others may have a hard time knowing that their creation is being carried by someone else. It is important for the individuals thinking about pursuing surrogacy to accept this realization and appreciate the fact that in the end they will be getting a like version of themselves, even if the baby is being carried by someone else.

Consider Financial Issues

Also involved in the decision as to whether surrogacy is right for you is the financial issues which go along with surrogacy. Surrogacy can be a costly procedure. You may have to use credit cards, and/or loans to pay for the surrogacy process. 

Types of surrogacies  

Gestational surrogacy 

Gestational surrogacy involves having the sperm of the father combined with the eggs of the mother. Gestational surrogacy can also involve having the inseminated egg(s) of a donor placed within the surrogate mother who will carry the child. 

The process of gestational surrogacy generally proceeds as follows. The mother or egg donor will take one or more cycles of medications and then they will have their eggs withdrawn. The eggs will then be combined with the father’s semen and examined days later to determine the success of the combination.

If the eggs are inseminated, the surrogate mother and the donor must decide how many eggs will be implanted within the surrogate mother. Then the reproductive specialist implants the eggs within the surrogate and see if it is a success. If the implant is a success, the surrogate mother will attend follow up visits with an OBGYN throughout the pregnancy.

Gestational surrogacy is a favored type of surrogacy amongst the two as it often provides for a genetic link of the child to both parents. Gestational surrogacy also makes it less emotional for the surrogate mother who simply has to carry the child and not lend any large portions of genetics to that child.

Traditional surrogacy 

Traditional surrogacy is when artificial insemination takes place and the father’s sperm or sperm of a donor is implanted in the surrogate mother. This is the original type of surrogacy and one which is simpler in nature. One of the main reasons why some hopeful parents shy away from traditional surrogacy is the increased involvement of the surrogate mother and lack of complete genetic likeness of the child to the parents. Traditional surrogacy may be less timely and less expensive than gestational surrogacy.

Which type of surrogacy is right for you? 

When trying to make that difficult decision regarding which type of surrogacy to choose, consider certain cost, desire for genetic likeness, degree of involvement by surrogate mother and desired timeline for having a child.